Do you trust the process / evolution of your life?
Do you stir the pot before it boils? Do you open the oven before it bakes?
Or do you relax on the sofa trusting the recipe and the time it takes?
Not long ago, I was interviewed by Adam Rochon on the topic of transformational change.
During the podcast interview, Adam and I explored a different way of thinking about change.
A more uplifting and empowering take on transformation.
Adam and I discussed how the key to lasting change isn’t to push yourself harder.
The key to lasting change is to understand yourself better.
To accept yourself more. And to judge yourself less.
Trust the timing of your life.
Your good and bad habits did not develop overnight.
And neither does transformational change.
Ultimately to grow, we must trust, let go, and learn to respect the process.
Excerpt from my interview with Adam Rochon: “For me respecting the process in my own life and in all the people I’m blessed enough to meet, is to realize the process is so much bigger than I am. It is our destiny. It is the 100 years – if we are ever that lucky to live on this earth. Whatever we experience, good or bad, is just a day in the life and that we need to pay attention to where we are. When we get stressed out, overwhelmed and are going through a lot of changes, take a step back and realize that there are so many forces at work that are greater than we are – which is the process. When we Respect the Process everything just falls into place. It sounds simple, but you need to just let go of what you don’t have control over and be inspired by the process.” Episode #15: Transformational Change.
Thriving Under Pressure 
Such a timely post for me to find right now. Thank you.
Sending you peace & a great big “trust the universe” hug. 🌸
I loved this. It is so true. Respect the process.
I loved this. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
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Trust the process! 3 words that inspire anxiety and stress since that requires surrendering control! Beautiful article about “The Big Picture!” Loved it!:)
I so get the stress & anxiety of letting go. We all experience it – in varying forms & intensity. Try reframing stress & anxiety as adrenaline (power) surges. Helping you to rise up to your highest path.💥
Great post
Thanks Amal.
I hope you have a chance to listen to the podcast.
http://www.respectingtheprocess.com/podcast/2014/4/12/2pzdjjbfqcmma7lcb8gh6alvjsiv8y
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Fantastic post
Thank you! Note to my Type A self. 😎
Respecting and being inspired by the process! So many great messages here that I resonate with! I will listen to the podcast … You shine a beautiful light on the journey we share to trust, allow and let go…as it sounds so simple yet takes lifetimes to experience!
Thank you for your insightful writings!
Sandy
Thank you so much Sandy! 💛
I am learning to respect the process… I think. I had a pre-chronic illness life and now a post-chronic illness life. I am adjusted, accepting and liking the new, calmer, gentler me! I appreciate things so much more.~Kim
From what you’ve shared Kim, you are most certainly respecting the process. The good & the bad. The highs & the lows. Above all, you honour the many lessons of your illness. Transformed & renewed.🌷
Thank you so much. That means the world to me.
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What a beautiful quote by John Lennon! Thank you for sharing. My day needed a post like yours today.
Julie
Your comment just made my day! Thanks Julie! 😊 #goodvibes
“We’re so busy taking selfies; why don’t we take one that counts?”
“When your demons come to the light, that’s when your angels soar!”
Alright now Dr. D!!!
Okay, here’s my second answer lol: I think that if you are a person who invites change, even in small ways, then it does help to adapt to so-called bigger changes…and yes, letting go of control is a BIG idea that is often difficult. We want to control our environment, other people, etc. In reality, the only thing you can really control are the choices you make no matter the shift 😉
You are too funny Dr. G! And equally profound. I love how you wrote “the only thing you can really control are the choices we make.” Amen to that! 🙌
I forgot to add… Thank you for listening to the podcast Kathy! And for KQuoting me back! You are the best cheerleader. Hands down! The best. Thank you 😊
Ha! You’re so welcome! All jokes aside, I looove your work and think it’s very helpful.
Hi Andrea: Just finished reading your latest blog and simply put, it’s just brilliant. Now doubt about it, you have great insights and your writing shows it. Picture of the butterfly 🦋 touched me.
Thanks Mom! You inspire me in so many ways. Nature is the perfect analogy for how to live a good life. And so is love. Grateful for you. 🦋 💙
Trusting the process is letting go of the reins. The first time we do this, it is like that exercise where we fall backwards and trust that someone is there to catch us – kind of scary but exciting at the same time! In letting go, we really come into our own power. I love your writings!
Thank you for your kind feedback & for your observations. Learning to let go is such an important step towards empowerment.
What an inspiring post Andrea. Accepting ourselves, our strengths and limitations is very essential. What a lovely way to encourage by saying ” Just when the caterpillar thought his world was over, it became a butterfly”.. So we must hang on..patiently!!
Agreed! So many opportunities on the other side of patience. And often the only obstacle in these situations is ourselves. Acceptance of “where we are” often softens the waiting time. Respecting the process. 🐌🦋
Absolutely!
God, Andrea, this is so true. I’m just looking at the gifts that come with my (Spirit’s) natural timing … it’s like a flow with what is so, and my loving is moving with me, through me, and alongside me. Your post brought me soothing and relief, as I am really working on letting go. ❤
Much love and blessings to you, Andrea and to Adam as well – Debbie
I love how you mention Adam, the podcast interviewer. So thoughtful Debbie. And observant. And as always, thank you for demonstrating how my post impacts your day. Connection is my favourite part of blogging! 🌺
I became a butterfly this year by doing just this…I trusted the process:)
Smiling reading your comment Jami! Your life is an inspiration to us all. Faith, patience, and trust bring us the most wonderful of gives. Our authentic selves. 💎🦋
When change doesn’t happen as fast as I would like the old adage always comes to mind “Rome wasn’t built in a day”. For some reason it helps me to step back away from frustration and look at the bigger picture.
A wonderful affirmation for looking at the bigger picture Bernadette. “Rome wasn’t built in a day” is one of my favourites too. Patience is definitely a virtue. And history is a great reminder of this. Thanks for sharing your practice.
Great perspective Andrea. I particularly like the part of accepting ourselves more instead of pushing ourselves harder.
Thanks Brad! I appreciate how you process each post. I can see why you picked this part. To me: Acceptance feels like a long deep, slow breath. A pause in the process. Something we could all use more of these days. (Fast rarely lasts.) Slow & steady ultimately wins the 100 year lifespan race. 🐌
Great feedback. Thanks Andrea. 🙂
Keep up the great work Andrea. Love and Respect…. very important.
Thank you for your encouragement!
You are most welcome. Important information to learn.
Great reminder. It seems to be my theme for the day.
Thank you so much!
My pleasure!
Your posts are always a ray of sunshine for me. I’m going to have a rough day of meetings, but I know that when they are all done, it’ll be the beginning of my post-meeting day! That’s the part I’m looking forward to!
I love how you framed your day! I bet you do the same for tough workouts. Imagining how good you’ll feel when it’s all done. ✅ Keeping the larger process in mind. But most of all thank you for your kind words about my posts. This is my intention. (And sunshine is my mom’s nickname for me coincidentally.) Today is a very good day. ☀️
I listened to your podcast Andrea and your enthusiasm and wisdom shone through. It resonated so much with me today as I am taking another big step out of my comfort zone. Thank you 😊
Thank you so much for listening to the podcast Brigid! And for your kind & generous observations. May your day be filled with “outside your comfort zone” surprises & opportunities. Big & small. 🌷💚
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I will listen to video later. But my reaction was I needed to hear this. I have been experimenting with trusting higher power and learning to forgive myself.
Sending you high vibes on your journey! We are all with you. Same path. Different signposts. 🙌
Good for you Yamina! Tough process. “Peace of mind” results.
Today’s post is a “note to self”. We’re building a house in a new neighbourhood. So every morning we have to take a step back, respect “the big picture” process & not pass judgment until the “whole of the neighbourhood” is finished..
Surrendering to the process required daily. 🏡 🌿
Thank you! Such an important lesson to learn, but it’s so difficult to do. I am learning to trust the process a little more each day. And when I do, it does bring so much peace!
Yes! Having a birds eye view helps!
Love the butterfly analogy : )
Thanks Raili! One of my favourite analogies. I use it often to remind students that as challenging as their nursing studies can be, it is all leading up to become the most beautiful version of themselves. An unfolding process that must be trusted to emerge. 🐌 🦋
Indeed. I wrote a children’s story for a friend’s daughter, called it Salma Butterfly. Ended up posting it as a series on my blog 🙂 So, I’m partial to butterflies too!
How wonderful! I look forward to reading the Salma Butterfly series on your blog. Grateful for your continued inspiration Raili. 🌺
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Beautiful article!
Thanks Dacian. 😊