Most people wince every time they hear the word “stress”.
It’s as if the whole world has been conditioned to respond to stress the same way, by word alone. A habitual thought response that is often more dangerous than the stressor itself.
What you believe matters.
The latest research in psychology examines stress in an entirely new way.
Rather than viewing stress as unequivocally bad for one’s health, health psychologists pinpoint belief systems as the moderating variable between stress and biology.
Stress perception ↔ Health benefits
“Embracing meaning is more important than reducing discomfort according to Stanford psychologist Kelly McGonigal. Stress can make us stronger, smarter and happier — if we learn how to open our minds to it.” Source: Stanford News
Which is one of many reasons why I love Dr. McGonigal’s TED Talk. She encourages us to think about stress in a whole new empowering way. With an emphasis on growth, purpose, and meaning over needless suffering.
Mindset is everything.
Using health psychology research, Dr. McGonigal reveals how perceiving stress as either positive or negative can have a “live or die” impact on individual stress response.
Change your thoughts. Change your stress response.
- Believe that stress is good for you (eg., stress heightens awareness) and you live longer.
- Alternatively, believe that stress is bad for you (eg., stress causes heart attacks) and you die sooner.
But don’t take my word for it.
You need to experience your own “Aha Moment” firsthand.
How to make stress your friend.
In the video below, Dr. McGonigal illustrates the many upsides of stress, including help seeking behaviour, increased energy, and robust health. She also backs up her stress positive claims with census records and comprehensive health research.
Hope you enjoy these fresh, new ideas about stress as much as I do!
"Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal urges us to see stress as a positive." Source: TED Talks
Helpful resources for adopting a resilience mindset:
- How to Turn Stress into an Asset by Amy Gallow
- Cognitive Reframing and Stress Management by Liz Scott
- Six Ways to Do Cognitive Restructuring by Dr. Alice Boyes
- Reducing Stress by Changing Your Thinking by Mind Tools
- Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life by Dr. Wayne Dyer
- The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good by Kelly McGonigal
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Thanks for sharing a different side of stress. Very informative and encouraging.
A different way of looking at things.
Hats off to your views on stress..
Informative read and most importantly, something new.
Hey Dr. Dinardo!
Just yesterday youTube wanted me to see that “how to make stress your friend” video. I’m really all about learning how to make the best out of a “bad” situation, like stress because I believe humans are able to go far beyond what we can imagine. I’m super honored you enjoyed my article, I hope we can have some interesting exchange of ideas and concepts 🙂
You’re really inspiring, I’m currently watching your TED talk! Keep your great work up!
Thank you for the extra dose of Monday Motivation. We all need it from time to time. Myself included!
p.s. YOU are inspiring too!
This post regarding how we see stress is life changing for me. By watching this video you posted the lightbulb moment came when I realized I have been doing exactly what the speaker is talking about for years! Thank you so much for posting this because it has confirmed more about what I am doing that I can possibly describe to you. Bless you from the bottom of my Heart! WOW! 💖
Great video! I’ve also found that even out of the moments in life where I’ve felt incredibly stressed, these have been the times where I’ve definitely grown and learned the most. I used to fear stress but a couple of years ago, that shifted for me. I realised that feeling stress was actually a good thing because it was going to lead me on a new exciting journey. Yes perception is key! x
What a great way of imagining the benefits of stress.
So empowering Wendy. Thanks for sharing! ⭐️💫
You’re very welcome – thanks for a great post! x
I love this.. and so important for people to know how stress doesn’t have to be the enemy! I saw a Lisa Rankin video on this similar to the one you’ve posted which was a real game changer for me. To discover that how we interpret stress is key. I love the final quote you have shared. So true!! thank you!
My pleasure! 😊
Thanks for sharing this! It’s interesting that something many of us believe to be our mortal enemy can actually be our ally; that’s one reason I love TED Talks, they do talk about a lot of interesting topics. 😀
“Something many of us believe to be our mortal enemy can actually be our ally.” Excellent summary Nicole! And the perfect introduction to this TED Talk. Thank you for talking the time to watch it & share your thoughts. You rock! 🙌
Thanks very much for the kind words! ❤️
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Interesting. I’ll have to check this video out soon!
Most excellent Dr. G! You’ll love it. 😊
Thank you thank you, Andrea!! This is such a succinct and motivating summary of very important ideas!! Wishing you and yours a joyful holiday season, and see you ‘round! 😄
Wow! Encouraging feedback from a medical doctor like you — makes this post so much more meaningful. Thank you so much Catherine! Happy Holidays to you too! 🌲
I never thought of it that way. I love that quote from Wayne Dyer. He had such a great way of looking at life.
Most excellent Michele! That’s the exact intention I was hoping for. A shift in perception about stress. Dr. Wayne Dyer always helps get us there. 🌀
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Great post Andrea, positive thoughts and balance is so important for our mind and body. Thanks for sharing this TED video!!!
My pleasure! It’s one of my all time favourite TED talks.
Excellent post.
Thank you. 😊
Great post and reminders Andrea. Resiliency has been a focus for me recently, learning how to embrace and flow with whatever life brings.
Good for you Brad!
Resilience matters.
Beautiful messages about stress
Strengthen our heart
Makes more social
Not feeling alone
Face challenge successfully
Absolutely positive way of thoughts.
Made my day
Oh how wonderful! I love knowing that my blog make a difference in someone’s day, Just like your comment did for me. Grateful for your kindness. 🌸
Nice post – I definitely believe in the “good” stress. The problem we have in the U.S. is we tend to have too much of the worst kind, which is so bad for overall health. As a career public service worker, we get subjected to the absolute worst kind – instantaneous Flight or Fight response repeated over time along with angry people, complaints, low pay, long hours. Healthcare workers, Police, Fire service, Physicians – all in that category. Those are the folks that need to have more efforts on stress response and how to redirect it.
Thanks for all your great posts – very helpful and informative.
I appreciate your candour Jai. Especially since I am a professor in the BScN nursing program. Reality is what it is. Our power exists in the space between stress and response. The more informed we are — the better prepared we will be.
YES! I worked as a Flight Attendant for 8 years. Preparation for possible emergencies is the key to response time. It is the main reason why flight attendants can evacuate planes within 90 seconds – the power exist between the stressor and response! Or as our instructors advised “control what is within your control “ Of course, the first thing we could control is our mind.
What a powerful example of this concept. Something you lived and breathed for 8 years. Thank you for sharing Mel. This post comes alive because of you. 💫
Thank You for sharing your gift and insight. I most certainly needed the reminder. ☺️
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Interesting – I just posted about resilience 🙂
Open minds think alike! 🤗
Good one ! Thanks.
I appreciate your feedback. Because if anyone gets the power of mindset — it’s you! The very tenet of buddhism.
I’ve got to link to this TED Talk. Great post and imperative that we understand the truth about stress.
Yes — so true. We must wake up to the health benefits of stress or we will die (literally) by our own (erroneous) convictions.
Just ask Dr. Kelly, as she discusses the research further in a 2 minute interview at Stanford University: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jSMYqc4CAZU
Be well!
My pleasure Sandy! My college students are going through a particularly tough time right now, and I wanted to empower them with a new way of thinking about stress.
Oooooh – those pesky belief systems! I love this fresh take on stress! And thank you for all of the resources!!
Blessings to you,
Sandy