Freedom doesn’t come from holding on.
Freedom comes from letting go.
Again and again and again.
Too often we are hard on ourselves for having to release the same thought, emotion, person, or situation over and over again.
When in fact this is how life goes.
Letting go and surrendering are an ongoing process. And as necessary for our mental health as eating is for our physical health.
We must eat three times a day. And sometimes we have to surrender (thirty) three times a day.
And that’s ok. That’s how life flows..
F R E E D O M
If you only had ONE YEAR to live:
What would you STOP doing?
THE CHOICE IS YOURS
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So much yes!! ❤️❤️Excellent wisdom for today. Thank you for sharing.
My pleasure Nova. Love knowing the message hit home. ☀️❤️
yes had the hardest year ever but coming thru it
👍 Got it in one Andrea, thanks for sharing 🙂
Yessss Margaret! I love it when bloggers join in on a group discussion.
Wishing you a labour day weekend is filled with freeeeeeedom. 🌳🍃
Hope you enjoyed your week end 🌳🌱☘️
Thanks Margaret! It took me a little too long to respond to your last comment. Hope you’re well and staying safe over in the UK. 🇬🇧🇨🇦
I’m practicing. I’m practicing. In the midst of moving house, the tendency is to micromanage everything, but I know from past experience that seldom does anything but create a lot of stress, so I’m catching myself and letting go. Amazing lesson: things still unfold as they should. Love this post.
Thank you VJ! Practicing Together ❤️❤️
Lol. We’re in good company then.
The best! 💯🙌
EFT! Love it and I had forgotten I have a manual. I truly need to get back into making better choices and freeing myself from fear. ❤
Your Angel Messages Always Help Me in this area Annette. You are more free from fear than you realize.. Trust me 💯🙌
Yes .. we all have choices…
unfortunately some don’t muster the courage to use them.
I am at a stage of life where my mind is free…aim is to just live happily ..and I am doing that.
Love that Krish!
I love this message Dr. D. Ironically, I had a birth chart and medium reading last month and in both messages, I was told that I need to surrender . This message is timely ❤
Can you hear me laughing out loud? I love that so much Dr. G! Prof Twins .. once again! Not only for the message you received. But also for your openness to “the other side”. Surrendering together. ❤️❤️
🥰 👯♀️ 🥰
You said it Andrea, it’s a conscious choice we make to claim our birthright of being free!
AND yes as many times a day letting go of everything that no longer serves!
We are emptying this sacred vessel to be able to carry more light into our next adventure…
It’s a very exciting time we’re living in ❤️
Think you for your wonderful post.
much love to you 😍
“it’s a conscious choice we make to claim our birthright of being free!”
I love it when my ideas come full circle.
Thank you for the love & affirmation.
Wishing you the same and more.
All day long Barbara ❤️❤️
Excellent message, especially the letting go of things that don’t really matter that nobody cares about anyway.
Thank you for watching the video & reflecting on the message. Your time is so appreciated!
Discernment is one of the most powerful tools we have.
Creating space between the “asks” and the “answers” in our lives helps me decipher the difference between what (who) matters & what (who) doesn’t.
Ultimately saving time and energy for what matters most: OUR HEALTH.
Because everything good (and sustainable) flows from a place of fulfillment not emptiness.
If you’re curious…
Thriving via Energy Awareness & Management is explored in more depth in a recent interview on “What She Said” Radio Show (105.9 The Region in Toronto, Canada):
Healing from a seriousness mental disorder whether anxiety, depression, PTSD etc.
After awareness, we accept, and then surrender to our trauma, our fear, our storyline.
To give up all resistance, I open my arms as wide as possible to my sides, exposing my heart.
In this posture resistance is impossible, surrender is the only thing that works.
Be curious about what makes you avoid, deny and fear!
This is the path less traveled.
I love the passion which you share your wisdom.
You can see your words are practiced by you in real life.
I would feel lucky to have you as a professor in college
“I open my arms as wide as possible… exposing my heart.”
This ^ is an mesmerizing image and daily practice Marty.
So much so, that my own heart opened while reading this.
Thank you for paying your own life experience forward and adding layers of lessons to my own posts.
Grateful for your time, energy, and generous feedback.
Wishing you a day filled with freedom, faith, and unexpected goodness.
I came upon this while
Meditating in the dark in my garage, agoraphobic for six months.
Ptsd has grown to something unknown, I thought something was going to come thru the roof tiles and do something worse than death
Seems ridiculous in a normal
Meditating I always
Flinched, tightened up a little, like you do when someone is about to hit you
So I opened
My arms and visualized my heart as a butterfly net
Softly catching what I was resisting, my deepest hurt
My deepest fear
Yes it is highly ironic
Surrender is our most powerful
Position in life
Freedom is possible in surrender mode
Not an easy place to exist
That is surrendering all
Beautiful surrendering practice Marty. And discovery of it. Surrendering is our DAILY pathway from fear to faith. 🦋🙏
A hugely important point, Andrea! Reflection Answer: I’d cancel a few 2 year+ plans. Beyond that? No change.
Amen Mitch! 2 years minimum.
Let Go & Let God. 🌟⚡️💛
Amazing post. Thanks for your words. 😊
You are so welcome! Love knowing the freedom message hit home. ❤️
Why is my natural tendency to clench those hands and hold on for dear life? The darkness is a huge temptation–and there’s such a sense of entitlement when I do that. Thanks for this, my friend. You’re touching on some really needed wisdom.
So true Dayle!
Unfortunately, it’s how our brain is designed. Which is why psychology coaches like me are in such high demand.
Us humans have a built in ‘negativity bias’ designed to protect us against predators – which served us well in the cave ages.. but not so much now. Now our predators are simply imaginary, for the most part.
You can read about it here:
And thank you for the kind words my friend.
May you wake up to all the choices in your life, big and small, all 2020 long.
You know I will keep you, right?
Stronger TOGETHER 😊
I question or perhaps I could call it requestion my thoughts of keeping or letting go. For in each instance there might be a new reason to hold on to something that isn’t pleasant instead of letting it go. Working through something in a different light or perhaps being a different person and having more ability to hold on to something to learn from it.
The question is always something sounding like: “Is it true… ” or “Is it truer now to… ” For at the moment I’m doing something that last year I would think improbable and it’s a good thing for others, a learning curve in a different way for me and making the world a better place (hopefully). In each moment there’s a whole new set of input to consider, to adapt to, to set the steering wheel upon the journey of a lifetime.
Excellent points! Choice is a moment to moment process. What seemed feasible yesterday (pre-covid especially) doesn’t necessarily make sense now. ADAPT OF DIE may sound harsh. Yet it’s never been more true.
Even in the saying “Adapt or Die” there’s still a choice and for the most part I think “Adapt” seems the best option.
What a powerful message Andrea. Yes! We always have a choice so why do so many of us keep struggling and suffering? I think that finally we’re realising what’s important. At least I know I am. Thank you for a wonderful reminder my friend. Take care and here’s to choosing love and faith over fear, always. xx 💙🙏
So much yes Miriam! Love + Faith liberate us every time ❤️❤️
Timely reminders for me. Thanks Andrea.
Love knowing it arrived right on time Brad! Of all the values, freedom is the one I hold highest. Wishing you a week filled with faith filled choices, fresh air, and plenty of time outside.
I’ve heard of so many techniques to aide us in letting go, physical actions that symbolize our release like throwing stones in a lake, tossing balled up pieces of paper into a bin and then burning the paper, writing our burdens/bad habits/etc. on a piece of paper and “nailing” them to a cross (a symbol of giving our burdens to the Lord).
I know there are plenty more because, hey, letting go is hard and we need all the help we can get. We sure do like to keep things to ourselves, don’t we? Well, my dad says “Give it to God, hands down and fingers extended. There’s no way you can pick it back up like that!” He’s right! But I still pick it back up. Then I have to let it go all over again! It’s definitely a process and it’s definitely necessary.
Oh, to answer your question. If I had only a year to live, I’d stop worrying about what others think of me. That’s only one thing but I think I’d better tackle one thing at a time. 🙂
The autobiographical nature to your answer is so fascinating AND so relatable. The imagery of your Dad with his hands down and fingers extended is EVERYTHING.
Thank you for sharing KJ. Your life lessons and journey help every person reading this post. Including me! It is a process. A sign that we are still alive.
And ultimately a test of faith and trust of what we let go of … makes room for something better.
Yes, yes. If we could only keep in mind the “something better”!! 🙂 Thank you for your comments. Your words mean so much. And I truly appreciate your insights that you share in your posts – so relatable, practical and always beneficial!! I enjoy reading and always find something that I can implement in my life.
Profound and inspiring wisdom, Andrea. Freedom is letting go of all our desires and embrace the reality. Super 👌👌👌
Thank you for reading & watching. Remembering we have a choice is one of the most empowering things we can do – daily. Your writing helps free up the space for this ^^
Yes I completely agree with you and that empowers us to do things with a lot of cheerfulness and vigor. You are always welcome. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
vital for our emotional wellbeing, well said!
Thanks for watching & reading Kate!
My goal is to do psychology videos in under 3 minutes.
Short and to the point = More free(dom) time.
good luck with that!
200 YouTube Videos So Far! Especially helpful with all of my online psychology classes due to COVID-19. What started out as an experiment has turned into a necessity. I know you can relate Kate. Hence the calm.
Oh so perfect this post. my life has , is going though so many changes and letting go is one of them. and freedom is a very big part of it.
I think you’ll enjoy these posts on peace & surrender:
My positive psychology, feel good prescription for the day. ❤️❤️
Thank you ! I will check them out and I like that. A positive prescription would be so beautiful. ❤️
Thank you so much I enjoyed this, and it put some good thinking in my head. 😊
Love knowing this ^ freedom blog post felt good for you. This is one hundred percent the reason I blog. Positive Energy ❤️
Yes so agree. ❤️
Great truth shared!
Thank you for the encouraging feedback! 🙏☀️
With this, more than anything else you’ve shared, I agree. It is like breathing in, you have to also keep breathing out again and again and again… The negative thought that comes to mind, has to be released and released and released again… unless it stops coming to mind, then there’s more time to see the beautiful things life also has to offer.
I love your breathing & release metaphor!
This year it’s more noticeable for many with our freedom of choice and surrendering to the unknown.
The greatest global spiritual journal / transformational opportunity since World War 1 & 2. What has been your biggest surrending since COVID-19 Began? 🌍 💭
This year was knowing I am abundant in all areas and supported.
Very powerful and completely true 🙏🏽♥️
Thanks for the feedback David!
What is the biggest and smallest freedom choices you’ve made since the global pandemic began?
I believe my biggest choice has been to stay true to myself and my needs during this time, still free to see the blessings that these isolations have given us and not allowing the negativity and fear to creep into my mind that would’ve impeded the gift we have been given to help heal our earth for that period of time..the smallest changes of freedom was to appreciate and understand the needs of other and there needs to live how they felt they needed.
How free are we to really think? When the mind (brain) is rewired, at an early stage, given the kind of attachment to our environment. Is it not fear that is instilled early on, a kind of subduing the idea of absolute freedom? We are left with little choices that we seem to have, but quite alien to our nature.
I hope your message reaches more people and they begin to consciously think of identifying the individual choices, closer to us, while we become mindful and think more of our well-being. Best wishes!
I appreciate the eye opening of this blog. I found it so fitting for my daughter I posted it on Facebook.
Thank you so much for sharing my psychology blog on Facebook. Wishing you & your daughter a double dose of freedom choice points – all September long. 🍂🧡
So true and such a good post!!! thanks
My pleasure Cindy! Thanks for your encouragement. Love knowing the message hit home.❤️❤️
Yes, indeed! Truth speaks for itself. Hey I had some issues in W.P. hell 🤣 did you get my Friday post?
Awesome, so needed especially in the times we live for those to let go and having that freedom to choose. With the Lord’s help we can do this
Thanks Bill! Wishing you a day filled with freedom & faith.
Dr. Dinardo. Great stuff. I like to tell my clients and colleagues that, originally, the Eightfold path was Ninefold but somewhere in translation they dropped ‘right choice.’ I believe we always intuitively know what the right choice is; we just don’t always ‘choose’ to make it. Cheers.
Thank you so much Dr. Mullen! And so true. It all comes down to choice – sometimes we have to learn the hard way to freedom.
We have a choice.
The card saying surrender more.
The most difficult and POWERFUL spiritual practice there is — Surrender
Really great wisdom. Something I let go of recently was the hatred I had for people who wronged me in the past.
I realised how much time I spent thinking about people who just aren’t worth it.
This allowed me to feel happier and get on with my life.
I am one hundred percent with you on this one James.
Anger. Hatred. Disdain. All can feel powerful in comparison to the grief and sadness and disappointment we feel (and believe) when we’ve been wronged.
But as you write (and I also reflect on the same in my own life). The pandemic underscores the need to travel lightly in every sense of the world.
Saving our energy for what matters most ~ our health and the ones we love.
The topic of energy and health is something I also talk about here:
As always, I appreciate your reflections and sharing Peter.
You help me reconsider my own.
Thank you, my dear friend for the inspriational boost. Always heeded and appreciated 🙏🏽🌞❤️ have an inspiring week.💫
You too Syl! Grateful for the hope that you bring to my day.❤️❤️