Remember to breathe.

Sometimes it’s the smallest things that have the greatest impact on our happiness. Something so close, so within reach, we often forget it was there in the first place. The good night’s sleep we’re yearning for; waiting patiently at the end of each day. The connection to nature we’re searching for; available 24/7 just beyond our front door. That extra deep …

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Just Breathe.

Sometimes it’s the smallest things that have the greatest impact on our happiness. Something so close, so within reach, we often forget it was there in the first place. The good night’s sleep we’re yearning for.. waiting patiently at the end of each day. The connection to nature we’re searching for.. available 24/7 just beyond our front door. That extra deep …

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The Power of Breathing Space: You are Safe

Every time we take a long deep breath, we are telling our bodies that we are safe. Each breath connecting our mind, body, and heart. Bringing us back to present time. Breathing Techniques To Try Follow Your Breath Become aware of each inhalation and exhalation. Focus on the sensations you feel as air passes through …

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Coping With Loneliness During the Holidays

NEW Interview December 20, 2020 Loneliness during COVID-19 Holidays AM800 CKLW Morning Show: Click Here When we feel a painful emotion, our first instinct is to pull away. To numb the pain. To hide from the intensity. This was the case for Sarah and Jack, two unique individuals with vastly different circumstances. But they each …

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Peace lives here.

Peace happens in moments. Not days. Not weeks. Not years. Hot coffee. Cozy blankets. Birds singing. The sun rising. Peace happens in moments. Not days. Not weeks. Not years. Savour the sunshine. Taste every morsel. Dance with abandon. Stroll by the moonlight. Peace happens in moments. Not days. Not weeks. Not years. Breathe deeply into …

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Improve Mental Health with Positive Psychology

“The goal isn’t to get rid of negative thoughts and feelings. The goal is to change your response to them.“ Instead of thinking of mental health as a burden you must shoulder, imagine it as an opportunity to experience peace and joy. In the same way that we make time for our physical needs, we …

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Uplifting Mantras for Uncertain Times.

Life lived backwards makes perfect sense.  You finally understand WHY the job, the partner, the degree, the house, the friendship, the ______ didn’t work out.  BUT what about in the “here and now”? How do we make the leap of faith during the darkest of days? MANTRAS mantras mantras.  Find a phrase that moves you …

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Finding the light.

How do you start the day? Do your morning routines lighten you up? Or bring you down? Early morning rituals spark the divine in me. No matter the day. No matter the moment. Angel cards, hot coffee, and mindfulness take me there. Fueling my creativity. Illuminating my path. Shifting me higher. Today’s Angel Reading — …

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Laughter is an instant vacation.

What’s your favourite stress reliever? Laughter is mine. We live in a world weighed down by disaster, debt, and divorce. So it’s no surprise that we’ve been conditioned to believe that tragedies require tragic mindsets. That serious issues demand serious attitudes. That hardships necessitate hardened spirits. What consumes your mind consumes your life. Change your view. Thankfully we …

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You hold the key.

Even though we often have little control over the “outside forces” in our lives, we can always make a positive difference – from the inside out. Start here. Right here. Right now. Be still. Breathe in gratitude. Be thankful for this very moment. Start small. Notice your passing thoughts. Let go. Awareness empowers. Notice the exact …

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The Shadow Effect

Psychology Class The Shadow Effect One of the things I love to do is share what’s happening on campus in my psychology class. Today’s topic: The Shadow Effect Watch this short video and consider the following questions: What is your shadow? How does your shadow serve you? Where does your shadow come from? How do …

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Empathic Listening: How Can I Support You?

How do you respond when a close friend shares a problem with you? Are you a fixer or a listener? If you’re anything like me, my first instinct is to fix the problem. To try and save loved ones from adversity. To rescue them. To make them instantly feel better. I suggest we do the …

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Enhancing well-being during the holidays

Do you find Christmas holidays stressful? If you’re anything like me (and Santa Claus), you answered yes. Something I wrote about in the December issue of The DRIVE magazine. Including the benefits of leaning into difficult emotions. Because the more we try to fight discomfort, the longer it lasts. “The root of all suffering is attachment.” Buddha Stop …

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The Biology of Stress.

The Amygdala Hijack ⊕ From Stress to Success ⊕ In this video clip of my keynote speech at the “You Can Do College Event” I share the biological origins of stress and anxiety with 300 high school students from Ontario, Canada. In this segment, I also demonstrate simple strategies for dealing with high stress situations. …

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Set a time limit on negativity.

Time is in such short supply. The sooner we appreciate its value, the better life becomes. When I was a kid my mom set the egg timer for almost everything we did; whether it was how long we spent doing our homework, weeding the garden, watching television, or complaining about life’s challenges. It helped us …

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Reading People: Lesson #1 Self Awareness

“The simple act of paying attention can take you a long, long way.” Intrapersonal Intelligence ⇔ Interpersonal Intelligence The first lesson in reading people, using the principles of emotional intelligence, is to understand yourself more deeply. What motivates you. What excites you. What angers you. What lifts you up! As self-awareness is essential for both …

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Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: 5 Steps to Thriving

Thriving Steps based on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Step 1  Physiological Needs – Energy of Thriving A good night’s sleep. Healthy food. Clean air to breathe. Step 2  Safety Needs  – Foundation of Thriving Freedom. Survival Skills. Safe place to live. Step 3 Love and Belonging Needs – Nourishment of Thriving  Supportive relationships. Loving family …

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Make room for destiny

Are you ready to move on but are reluctant to let something go? Letting go is not giving up. Letting go is not giving in. When you let go you make space for something better. When you let go you generate energy needed for moving forward. Close your eyes. Clear your heart. Breathe. Let go …

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Change your life. Five minutes at a time.

 Are you tired of doing the same old, same old? Are you ready to end the repetitive cycles in your life? Is it time for a change? But …..  you…..  don’t…..  have…  time… Surrender your fears, your resistance, your excuses. Change need not be overwhelming. Start small. End Big. Little changes make a big difference. They add …

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It’s ok not to be ok.

As a positive psychologist, I often write about the bright side of life. Including harnessing strengths, enhancing motivation, and flourishing in the wake of adversity. Not the whole picture While strengths are vital to realizing one’s full potential – it’s not the whole picture when it comes to living a balanced life. Embrace the downside We …

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You hold the key.

Even though we often have little control over the “outside forces” in our lives, we can always make a positive difference – from the inside out. Start here. Right here. Right now. Be still. Breathe in gratitude. Be thankful for this very moment. Start small. Notice your passing thoughts. Let go. Awareness empowers. Notice the exact …

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Stressful Times: Empowering Life Lessons

 Question your stress. It has a lesson for you. 1/ Identify a stressor / challenge in your life. Be specific. For example: Not enough money. Too busy. Lack of sleep. Pushy relative. Your Answer: ______________________________ 2/ What is this stressor / challenge trying to teach you? For Example: Slow down. Change jobs. End a relationship. …

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Failure is the opportunity to begin again.

Ask someone how they feel about failure in the midst of it; life as they know it is over.  Ask someone how they feel about failure one year later; life as they know it has been transformed. 🦋  5 Ways to Feel Strong in the Midst of Failure: Take a long deep breath. Be still. Don’t …

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Set a time limit on negativity.

Time is in such short supply. The sooner we appreciate its value, the better life becomes. When I was a kid my mom set the egg timer for almost everything we did; whether it was how long we spent doing our homework, weeding the garden, watching television, or complaining about life’s challenges. It helped us …

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Writing in One Word.

In One Word: Describe how you feel when you write. Writing makes me feel ALIVE! For me, writing is all encompassing. The words become the beat of my heart. The words become the oxygen I breathe. The words become all that I touch, feel, and see. For me, writing is all encompassing. I am the …

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Summer school.

Bittersweet Ending The end of a college semester is always bittersweet. Summer school is no different. The final psychology exam was just this week. And I miss my summer students already. Full disclosure: Psychology is my passion. Pre-Nursing Psychology I am grateful to have met so many wonderful St. Clair College students in the pre-nursing …

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Gratitude multiples our treasures.

This rollercoaster life. Life is full of highs and lows. Wins and losses.  Joys and sorrows.  Celebrations and defeats. Too much and too little. Make the shift. Nothing shifts us from scarcity to abundance more quickly than a sudden moment of appreciation and gratitude. Multiply your treasures. Take a moment (this moment) to look up and breathe in all that …

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