Show yourself some love today.
Your health and happiness depend on it. ♥️
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What loving thing will you do for yourself today?
Category: Self Esteem and Empowerment
New day. Fresh start.
Begin your day with extra love & tender care. As how we start our day becomes how we live our lives.
What daily habits & routines uplift you & shift you each morning?💫
Who are you?
Self-awareness is the starting point for personal success. Until you know who you are, how will you know what truly motivates you?
Reawaken your passion for work and life by reflecting on “Who you are“.
- How would you describe yourself in one word?
- What are 3 of your strengths?
- What are 3 of your challenges?
- When do you feel most alive?
- What is your favourite movie? Book?
- What is your dream job?
- What is your dream place to live?
- If you could have 5 minutes alone with anyone (dead or alive) who would that be? What would you ask them?
- Do you prefer being indoors or outdoors?
- What is (was) your favourite subject in school?
- If you could own any car, what would it be?
- What character trait is most important to you?
- What makes your heart sing?
- Do you prefer spending time alone or with people?
- What is your favourite ice cream?
- Are you a morning or a night person?
- What is your favourite song? Band?
- Finally… How do you define yourself at the very core of your existence?
Stand Your Sacred Ground.
Studio shot of pencil erasing the word fear from piece of paper
FEAR ->Forget Everything And Run.
Each time we feel threatened (threat is the fundamental definition of stress) our first instinct is to “fight or flight“. PUFF UP or Shrink.
This perpetual “fight or flight” response loop eventually creates a host of secondary problems, above and beyond, the original stressor (or oppressor).
It does not matter how we attempt to “control” a stressful situation – physically, verbally, or by running away from it.
Eventually, a repetitive “fight or flight” response cycle will take a significant physical and psychological toll.
IS THERE A BETTER WAY ?
FEAR ->Face Everything And Rise.
Strengths First.
The mantra Stand Your Sacred Ground reminds us that the many strengths within us will always be greater than the perceived threats (stress) outside of us.
The key is to first discover and then embrace, each and every one of our divine gifts. Within us. And all around us.
Breathe and Receive.
The mantra Stand Your Sacred Ground inspires us to stand still, take a deep breath, and trust that being yourself is enough.
Simply holding your own ground is enough.
No fight. No flight. No Fear. Only love.
Curing the disease to please. One no at a time.
“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.”
The Beauty of NO.
When you learn to say no to something you no longer want to do, to people you no longer want to spend time with, to projects you no longer have time for, your world does not get smaller.
Your World Gets BIGGER.
Each time you have the strength to say no to takers who drain your time, your energy, your resources, your patience – you create more space for each authentic, heartfelt, luminescent, unconditional, absolute YES!
More Room for YES.
Each time you have the courage to say no to people pleasing – you create more time (for the people, projects, and places that truly matter), more truth (about who you really are, and what you really want to do), more opportunities (to make a meaningful difference in this world), more freedom (to follow your dreams, your destiny, your calling), and ultimately, more genuine happiness to share with this great big, beautiful world.
This is your world. This is your life. This is your time to shine!
Your strengths light my way.
“See the light in others and treat them as if that’s all you see.”
The field of positive psychology has been a blessing for me, both personally and professionally.
By focusing on strengths first, I buffer myself against the vicarious trauma and compassion fatigue often associated with the practice of psychology. And in turn, my positive approach heightens the resilience and stress hardiness in others. (Boomerang effect!)
Everywhere I go, I’m on the lookout for genius. And I don’t mean genius in the general sense. I mean strengths, assets, gifts, capabilities, multiple intelligences that are unique to each person. (Einstein’s quote below captures it perfectly.)
For not only is strengths finding essential for illuminating the abundance in others, it is essential for harnessing the bounty in ourselves.
As each time we witness the light shining brightly in another, we see their radiance reflected back in ourselves.
Reflection Questions
Identify 2-5 strengths that you witnessed in others today. Describe how seeing the strengths in others brought out the strengths in you.
- Today I discovered my sister’s ___________. This illuminated my:
- Today I noticed my manager’s ____________. This bolstered my:
- Today I uncovered my student’s __________. This reinforced my:
Related Post: Positive Psychology on Campus.
If you need help with finding the good in others especially the challenging people in your life click on this this link to a great article in Psychology Today.
Blaming keeps us stuck.
When something goes wrong, how do you respond?
Externalize the problem and blame someone else for it.
OR
Take responsibility for the problem and search for a solution.
It is only when we acknowledge our contribution to life circumstances that we have the power to change for the better.
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