When something goes wrong, how do you respond?
Externalize the problem and blame someone else for it.
Take responsibility for the problem and search for a solution.
It is only when we acknowledge our contribution to life circumstances that we have the power to change for the better.
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Yes! That’s a big pet peeve of mine – complaining about something you have total control over.
I get it.
The key is not to become a complainer about the complainers.
lol yeah, I just tell them to pipe down
Great strategy! Me too. Or I just dance on by..💃💃
This is so key, Andrea – taking responsibility. It’s something that is a life-long lesson for me, I sense. I do my best to be vigilant, and boy do I work it. Forgiveness helps, as does reaffirming what is true. 🙂
Many blessings! Thank you.
I admire how you write: “I do my best to be vigilant, and boy do I work it. Forgiveness helps, as does reaffirming what is true.” An empowering combination of logic & love.💫💛
Taking responsibility for your life is freeing.
So true Bernadette!
Only then do we have the power to move on & beyond.💫
We were on the same wave 😉-becoming free with our thoughts is empowering. Love it! 🌸
I really, really, really, appreciate this post ❤ thanks for sharing!
My pleasure! 💖
I usually take responsibilities for my life. However, sometimes I fail to admit to myself that externalizing factors are outside of my control. This is what the serenity prayer is for to remind us daily to accept the things we cannot control.
Great strategy! I do the same. I love the serenity prayer.
Life is a fine balance between holding on & letting go.
The challenge is to know the difference.🍃
It takes great strength to own up and take responsibility. An inspiring post, Andrea. Thank you!
Thanks for the feedback! Feeling safe & removing judgement (no matter what) makes all the difference. Otherwise known as unconditional positive regard in a therapeutic setting (and unconditional love in life). Something that helps us stay true (and free), no matter the action.💫💛
I think when you blame someone, or even blame yourself, you are creating more stress. Stress is the difference between how you expect things to be and how they really are. Why do we need to blame at all? Just accepting things for what they are is the key…though that’s extremely difficult to do. It’s something I struggle with.
Yes, replace blame with acceptance and/or responsibility taking. The point is to reclaim your power – instead of giving it to someone else. Thanks for sharing! Your insights are so helpful.
That’s a great post, playing the blame game is not helpful.
Thanks Ajibola! Blaming might feel good in the short-term. Yet it keeps us stuck in the long-term. Instead: Stop the blame. Own it. Move on. Our highest purpose depends on it!