Reflection Question.

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Show yourself some love today.

Your health and happiness depend on it. ♥️

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What loving thing will you do for yourself today?

60 thoughts on “Reflection Question.

  1. So often we put ourselves last but as I’m discovering, as I get older, the best thing we can do is love ourselves and be gentle with ourselves. I tell my 16yo son this all the time, “be your own best friend” and “be kind to yourself” as he’s often very self critical. Wonderful reminders here, thank you.

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  2. Interesting thought. At times one could say many problems in the world is we love ourselves too much and we have become consumed with self to the exclusion of those around us. Maybe its just my observations after 39 years in the field.

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    1. As always, you encourage me to dig deep with your comments. Something I cherish online & in real life.

      I agree with you 100% when you refer to the narcissism that is pervading our society today. Which is sad. Because as you know all to well from your work & life experience, growth & strength develop in challenge & adversity.

      Depriving young people of the opportunity to be uncomfortable in their early years, robs them of their resilience in times of real challenge. Something none of us can escape through our phone and/or social media.

      On the other hand, there is a legitimate need for genuine acts of self-care & love that foster one’s spirit, and in turn give them more energy to take care of the people around them. Just 5 minutes of meditation can recharge one’s body for 24+ hours. 50 minute in nature can fuel one’s spirit for a week.

      I believe the important distinction between self-love & narcissism is that one takes from no one and eventually gives to everyone. While the other is simply take, take, take..

      What do you think?

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      1. You nailed it Andrea. As we read the initial post we agreed with its point but twinged a little but hoped you would understand where we were coming from. You say it so well in there being that “legitimate need for genuine acts of self-care…”. We so often realize we are no good to anyone when we don’t make the time to re-charge our own emotional health. Sometimes we kick ourselves at how long it took us to realize this valuable point you are making. Thank you for making time to get back with us on a topic that is so important to so many of us.

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  3. Suzanne

    I haven’t really thought about this today so thank you for reminding me that we should express love to ourselves every day. For a while now I have trying to focus on positive thoughts instead of the negative ones. However, due circumstances it became a low-profile goal so today I will make it my primary priority again.

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    1. I love how you refer to low profile and high profile goals.

      Life happens as you know. Rarely as planned. The key is not to beat yourself up for shifting your attention from thriving back to merely surviving on certain days. Negativity is ok. And should be welcomed from time to time. As you are only human Suzanne. And that’s what makes you so wonderful. Your nuance 🙂

      You might also be interested in this post:
      https://drandreadinardo.com/2016/10/15/set-a-time-limit-on-negativity/

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  4. I have been trying really hard this year not to compare myself with others, which in itself is actually a form of self love. It is so much a part of 21st century life for people to be forever wanting to be prettier, thinner, richer etc and it is only since I have grown older (now 64) that I have come to understand the value of acceptance.

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    1. Not comparing is the most wonderful of self-love goals! I bet that you, me, and everyone in between could trace 99% of their negative thoughts back to some come of comparison. Which is only enhanced by magazines, television, and social media. And the craziest part is that none of it is real. We are comparing ourselves (using our imagination) to “what you think” others are doing. It is certainly the thief of joy!

      What I have found helpful is to do a 60 second appreciation exercise where whatever comes into my line of vision is experienced through all 5 of my senses (ok maybe not taste… hee hee). When the 60 seconds are up, you’ll forget what you were comparing yourself to. You’ll have time travelled back to the ‘here & now’. The most grounded place on earth.

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  5. Hello Dr Dinardo,
    A beautiful thought and you know it’s something I’m now passionate about too…
    For me it now begins with the gentler self talk. I may still ruminate over something I said and I still sometimes second guess myself, but the words are much kinder.
    Thank you for a lovely blog 💐💕

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    1. “Gentler self talk”. Just reading your words softened my thoughts. Especially when you don’t expect yourself to be “perfectly positive” in the process. Instead, these 3 simple words “Gentler self talk” move you closer to a place of peace. Thank you for sharing Di. xo

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  6. Greetings and Blessings to you! 🙂 As I read the first part of the question about list of things I love… I started to make a list. Then I read the rest of question and starting laughing. I sure did skip right over myself. Thanks for sharing, and thanks for sharing a positive message! 🙂

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  7. Helen Diane Wood AKA Dr. Di

    What an inspiring, uplifting thought you posted today, Dr. D. After my morning run, I always spend time working in the gardens and it’s lifts my spirits throughout the day, just like one of your bloggers mentioned. Your creative thoughts always amaze me. Thanks!! from Dr. Di (aka) mom ☀️👨‍🌾🏃‍♀️🤗

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  8. Thanks I am not always effective 100% of the time only the other week I was beating myself up about something. Hence it always good to read thought provoking content such as your own to get me focusing on the positives. 🙂

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  9. I am working on addressing my self-limiting beliefs. I am more aware of this and ever, so when one of these beliefs pop up I always try and put a positive spin on it. So for example if I say “I am not good enough at X”, I then say “But I will be with more effort/if I try/believe in myself”.

    Regards
    James

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      1. I’ll up that to two ❤️ I spent some time in the sun, which always elevates my mood and makes me feel great… and I am about to go buy a fit bit

        I love what you’re doing. I wish I had a bike and a place to ride like that!

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