“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.”
The Beauty of NO.
When you learn to say no to something you no longer want to do, to people you no longer want to spend time with, to projects you no longer have time for, your world does not get smaller.
Your World Gets BIGGER.
Each time you have the strength to say no to takers who drain your time, your energy, your resources, your patience – you create more space for each authentic, heartfelt, luminescent, unconditional, absolute YES!
More Room for YES.
Each time you have the courage to say no to people pleasing – you create more time (for the people, projects, and places that truly matter), more truth (about who you really are, and what you really want to do), more opportunities (to make a meaningful difference in this world), more freedom (to follow your dreams, your destiny, your calling), and ultimately, more genuine happiness to share with this great big, beautiful world.
This is your world. This is your life. This is your time to shine!
Thriving Under Pressure 
Andrea, your posts are inspiring that after reading them, I am sitting here smiling and happy. Keep them coming!
Thank you so much! Your feedback encourages me to keep up my writing. Grateful. 🙌
I practice curing myself of the “pleasing disease” every day! I work on being kind and respectful while still making decisions that honor myself and my priorities. So important, and very challenging at times. Worth it!
Amen Jenna! Hard work. Painful at times. Especially for a sensitive heart. But in the end – so worth it. The people in your life who respect you, will always respect your no. The pushers will eventually move on, leaving more time, more space, and more room for unconditional love.💖
You are right – saying no is very freeing and empowering.
Amen Bernadette! There is no better feeling than “the other side” of no. Getting there can be excruciating, especially for the “caregiver or rescuer” archetype. Yet the rewards & lessons are so immense. 1) Self-reliance for the takers. 2) Freedom for the givers. 3) Empowerment for both. Win-Win!
I think this has been my number one life lesson. I had to learn it the hard way!
Mine too Brigid! Life (long) lesson indeed. Giving ultimately has to be an inside job – only then will we have the stamina & energy to give to others. The ones that love us unconditionally understand. The rest can find another people pleaser. 😉
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Hi Andrea,
Always on the money!
Just a quick return to be again confirmed.
Cuts my stress levels to shreds!
Bridie.
I always love hearing from you Bridie! Thank you for the encouraging feedback. Stress be gone!
Great insights! I love how you put emphasis that saying No is actually saying Yes to more good stuff.
I have also written a similar post on this topic some time ago. 😊
https://thehappylife101.wordpress.com/2016/06/27/it-is-ok-to-say-no/
Awesome! Thanks for sharing Nina. Your feedback & your post. Together we remind others (and ourselves) that NO is the most liberating word in our vocabulary.💃🎉
I like how you put it that way… and you’re welcome! 😊
Reblogged this on Loving Me, Too and commented:
This knocks my guilt out of the ball park because I’m “…creating more space for each authentic, heartfelt, luminescent, unconditional, absolute YES!”