https://youtu.be/fd9TrYI75o0?si=0gaSNLNAWVqWOAE8 The sweet spot is the moment in life when you realize you have arrived and the most interesting part is that you havenโt gone anywhere. Instead, you finally come home to the present moment. The here and now. The sweet spot. Nowhere else to be. But here and now. Right Here. Right Now. The... Continue Reading →
Delaying Gratification Doubles The Reward
https://youtube.com/shorts/Bvo0FXfS7t4?feature=shared When faced with a choice, ask yourself: Do I need to slow down? Am I being impulsive? Will I have regrets? Do I have all the information? Is it worth the wait? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXZvf2_UHJ0 Reflection Questions 1. Do you consider yourself a patient person, an impatient person, an impulsive person? Does your answer depend on... Continue Reading →
Growth Mindset in Challenging Times
https://youtu.be/ldOlNJ0ds0c The idea we have for our life rarely matches up with the life we end up with. Plan A is fantasy. Plan B is reality. Growth is not a straight line, which is often a blessing in disguise, yet something we seldom realize in the thick of life. How do we move on from... Continue Reading →
Whatโs Your Endurance Mantra?
Transforming our mindset from pain to power and stress to strength is key during uncertain times. And particularly important for students as they complete exams this semester! Watch the video below to hear my endurance mantra during a difficult spinning class at a local gym. https://youtu.be/nD4LmUHG2vM An endurance mantra I use during workouts, in the... Continue Reading →
Free Your Soul
https://youtu.be/1dwCnVQhpQ4?si=4r9fjY0ii_Cw_QNc Soul Reflections โ๏ธ What do you need to LET GO of to feel a sense well-being? โ๏ธ Who and what do you no longer want to be OBLIGATED to? โ๏ธ If you had only one year to live, what five things would you STOP doing? โ๏ธ What JOY do you wish you had more... Continue Reading →
Face Everything and Rise
Fight or Flight Threat Response Every time we feel threatened (threat is the fundamental definition of stress) our first instinct is to โfight or flightโ. This perpetual โfight or flightโ response loop eventually creates a host of secondary problems, above and beyond, the original stressor. Powerpoint Slide from Broaden and Build Leadership Event, January 2022... Continue Reading →
Whatโs my purpose?
What's your perspective on purpose? Is it something you do or something you are? Is it ignited at birth? Or at work? Does it expire at death? Or when you retire? https://youtu.be/0WA8LzF5m3Y The way I see it. Purpose is for a lifetime. It's what lights you up, and sets your soul on fire! Video of... Continue Reading →
Let Your North Star Guide You
Mindfulness Tip: Look Up The sky connects us to something bigger than ourselves. Challenges appear small in comparison to the vastness of the sky. Solutions seem plausible. Answers come more easily. In the presence of stars, we embrace the profound and surrender it all. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0gMq9BNKvOA
The moment of surrender is not when life is over. Itโs when life begins.
https://youtu.be/W7dz0FvnkxY?si=WEfPsjb9TVnDgRTK Surrender is not giving in. Surrender is not giving up. It is trusting in something bigger than yourself. Something you canโt quite see. https://youtu.be/I7YD4A900-4 Quietly unfolding. Slowly expanding. In your favour. Behind the scenes.
What advice would you give your younger self?
ASK DR. D โฆ ANYTHING! At a recent leadership conference, student leaders from St. Clair College's Student Representative Council SRC had the opportunity to ask questions live during the final portion of the training event. Questions & Reflections The student leaders raised the reflection bar high during this discussion period. One Question Stood Out The... Continue Reading →
You are enough, just as you are.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygkRUiRacSE You are enough, just as you are.๐ Mirror Exercise: Waking Up with Love
New Virtual Experiences
Staying Hopeful I wanted to share how I have been keeping hope alive in my heart and soul during 2020. Specifically, by expanding my reach with new virtual experiences. Beginning in the spring with my first "live" recorded internet event with Sam Piercell, a fitness entrepreneur, from Windsor, Ontario. 1. F45 Live Event: Community Resilience... Continue Reading →
Failure as Feedback
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=810whIFASFI&feature=emb_title "Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit." With time, I have come to realize that failure has always been my greatest teacher. Each failure pointed me in a better direction and helped me to develop strength and authenticity, ultimately unveiling who I was and... Continue Reading →
The Space Between No Longer and Not Yet
The time in between is a difficult time for all of us. Myself included. A super organized (type A) person like me becomes a little unhinged in the space in between. But don't we all? Wondering if we still have what it takes. Hoping we can still make a difference in the world when the... Continue Reading →
Stay Open to the Possibilities
One of my favourite ways to energize before teaching psychology classes at St. Clair College is to summarize a theory in practical and concrete ways in the parking lot.Literally! ๐ I filmed this video 5 minutes before I was about to teach a lecture on personality and positive psychology in my liberal arts class. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUC7f_3EdHA Just... Continue Reading →
Celebrating Moms Everywhere
Let's not wait until Mother's Day to celebrate moms everywhere. Letโs celebrate moms today. Including my own. Moms of every age. Moms of every country. Moms of every kind. Cat moms. Dog moms. Aunt moms. Friend moms. Professor moms. Neighbour moms. The only thing that matters is love. Sharing Mom Memories And since Mother's Day... Continue Reading →
Student Resilience and Success (YouTube Video)
Resilience & Success In this 8 minute video, I describe three resilience tips for student success: 1. CONNECT 2. CREATE 3. THRIVE https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3OXADYU-pQs&app=m&persist_app=1 Hold On STAY STRONG โBe Fearless in Pursuit of What Sets Your Soul on Fire.โ There will always be obstacles. The question is โ do you see them as roadblocks or stepping... Continue Reading →
Windsor Updates Spotlight
Community Spotlightย Today I would like to shine a light on a local entrepreneur named Alex Binaei, the creative mind behind Windsor Updates and the video highlighted in this post. Adversity โ Creativity Alexโs video for Windsor Updates is one of the best examples of how crisis and adversity create innovation and ingenuity. In both... Continue Reading →
What has COVID-19 awakened in you?
How is everyone doing? How are you coping with our universal global event? How has your perception of yourself and the world evolved? How has COVID-19 transformed you? What is the higher purpose in all of this? I Am Waking Up After socially distancing and working full-time from home as a psychology professor (now online),... Continue Reading →
Breathe
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zRSQw-LjU8k Every time we take a long deep breath, we are telling our bodies that we are safe. Each breath connecting our mind, body, and heart. Bringing us back to present time. 5 Breathing Techniques: Follow Your Breath Become aware of each inhalation and exhalation. Focus on the sensations you feel as air passes through... Continue Reading →
Celebrate how far youโve come.
Today letโs celebrate all the dreams that came true. Merely an idea 5 years ago. It is so easy to get lost in our hopes and motivations for the future. Without realizing how many of aspirations we have already achieved. Together letโs honour how far weโve come. Only then will we have the fuel and... Continue Reading →
Mindful Moments in California
We are on a trip to California for our December birthdays and wedding anniversary and I couldnโt imagine a more mindful place to be. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pa_DVAmmTzY Nature everywhere we look. Luminous moonlight. Dancing campfire. Fresh ocean air. Water as far as the eye can see. Sunshine in every nook. 100 year old fig trees. Just outside... Continue Reading →
Improve Mental Health with Positive Psychology
https://youtu.be/I08EUaQ8g9Y Reevaluate Your Approach to Mental Health Instead of thinking of mental health as a burden you must shoulder, imagine it as an opportunity to experience peace and joy. In the same way that we make time for our physical needs, we must devote equal attention to our psychological needs. Original Source โ The Drive... Continue Reading →
HOPE CHANGES EVERYTHING
H old O n P ain E nds During difficult times, I often tell myself: โWhat a difference a day makes.โ This one simple sentence helps me to remember that tomorrow is a brand new day. Illuminating the possibility that what looks like the end in that dark moment, could in fact be preparing me... Continue Reading →
Happiness and Healing in Present Time.
You have the ability to make positive changes in your life. Right here. Right now. Donโt wait for โthe perfect timeโ to transform your life. NOW IS YOUR POWER.
Patience is the ability to count down before you blast off
What is meant for you is coming for you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FHAotUT2eAY E X P A N S I O N happens in the space in between stress and strength, pain and power. Trust and Believe in Your Divinity. HONOUR this day, this moment, the unknown. You got this! What is meant for you is on its way. https://drandreadinardo.com/2020/05/13/stay-open-to-the-possibilities/
Uplifting Mantras for Uncertain Times
Life lived backwards makes perfect sense.ย You finally understand WHY the job, the partner, the degree, the house, the friendship, the ______ didnโt work out. BUT what about in the โhere and nowโ? How do we make the leap of faith during the darkest of days? Mantras Are My Answer https://youtu.be/nD4LmUHG2vM?si=j88ssJBGT3y6KepP Find a phrase that... Continue Reading →
EMPOWERING THOUGHTS
Choose the THOUGHTS that emPOWER you today. It takes one word one thought one mantra to shift our mind from pain to power. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wIK91yKh0Zo What will your empowering thought be this week? Iโd love to know. Share your WORD in comments below! Related Post: Empowering Conversations
Breathe. Trust. Let Go.
Trust that everything is working out as it should. In divine time. In divine order. For your highest good. 'Theseย mountainsย thatย you are carrying,ย youย were only supposed to climb.โ Breathe. Trust. Let Go.
How brightly you shine.
Remembering Who You Are The first thing that goes when we are faced with a stressor of any kind is the memory of all we have overcome in years gone by. Wake Up Call Let this be your daily, weekly, hourly signpost of how wildly capable you are. Truly. Incredibly. Strong. And if you ever... Continue Reading →
International Womenโs Day: Who Inspires You?
#internationalwomensday #rolemodel Growing up my Mom, my mentor, and the first psychologist in our family, didnโt talk a lot about womenโs empowerment. โ She lived it. Gracefully. Quietly. Courageously. Today, and all days, I am grateful for a role model who began her journey from challenge to strength with incredible will and a heart of... Continue Reading →
Shed the stress. Let. It. Fall.๐
This post was inspired by a stressful situation that I could not let go of. No matter how hard I tried. Day in day out. The worry would reappear. Then someone suggested that I โshed the stress" and a lightbulb went off. Each time the repetitive thought appeared, I imagined a tree shedding its leaves.... Continue Reading →
Fear is an illusion.
Donโt be fooled by fear. Look it directly in the eye. Fear distorts reality. Fear exaggerates the truth. Step back. Take a pause. ย Remember who you are. You have overcome great adversity. You have faced this phantom before. This wolf is a mirage. Only your strength,ย your courage,ย and yourย untapped powers are real. Resources to help you... Continue Reading →
Natureโs Medicine: Here I Am
https://youtu.be/BcKL7x18Fc4?si=DIMK9PLpsOuAAiHQ The Aftermath No matter how many times I deliver a speech or engage in media and events, I am frequently left with the same emotion for the next day or two. Sadness. A kind of longing. A sense of emptiness. A Change of Pace I spend weeks and months practicing, preparing, and editing my... Continue Reading →
Hope
My husband John and I had dinner at this little restaurant in Niagara-on-the-Lake when I was away speaking at a conference this week. This single pink rose on the table reminded me of the only thing that truly matters during the up and down cycles of life โ HOPE I have hope. In you. In... Continue Reading →
Less fight. More serenity.
The next time youโre gearing up for another big fight with reality. Morning Traffic Office Politics Loud Neighbours Unpredictable Weather Try rolling with it. Giving up the fight. Waving the white flag. Surrendering to what is. And always has been. The upside. You conserve energy for the joyful in your life. The meaningful in your... Continue Reading →
Faith.
Trust the process of your life. What looks like the end could be a whole new beginning. You just canโt see it yet.
You have the power to change the story!
What are the most powerful words in the universe? The ones you use to talk to yourself. Choose the words that move you forward, the emotions that lift you up, and the actions that empower you. Believe in the one reason that a difficult situation will work out. You! You have everything it takes to... Continue Reading →
Breathe and Receive.
When I'm struggling to get through a difficult day, I look to the trees for inspiration and refuge. All they do is give. And all we need to do is receive. Again and again. With every single breath. And every single step. ย Peace lives here.
What We Believe Matters
What we believe matters as itโs our mindset that shapes our physiological and emotional response to stressful circumstances. Ultimately, determining our ability to face our fears, overcome resistance, and bounce back after adversity. Watch Video - Click Here https://youtu.be/p58APeFQEmM RELATIONSHIP: BELIEF PATTERNS For example, when a relationship ends, if we view it as a personal... Continue Reading →
Fear is an illusion.
Donโt be fooled by fear. Look it directly in the eye. Fear distorts reality. Fear exaggerates the truth. Step back. Take a pause. Remember who you are. You have overcome great adversity. You have faced this phantom before. The wolf is a mirage. And so is fear. https://youtu.be/IFjQUwtnqk0?si=jZKRn6dP7QHrTo8d Resources to help you break free: Understanding... Continue Reading →
Make room for destiny
Are you ready to move on but are reluctant to let something go? Letting go is not giving up. Letting go is not giving in. When you let go you make space for something better. When you let go you generate energy needed for moving forward. Close your eyes. Clear your heart. Breathe. Let go... Continue Reading →
Rise above.
Today I lift my eyes to the sunshine. No matter the weather. โฅ๏ธ Related Post: You hold the key.
We were made to thrive!
Unless someone is going through a major life tragedy, I rarely, if ever, lean in and listen to someone's day-to-day hassles. Instead, I choose to give energy to their strengths not their struggles. To their light not their shadows. To their purpose not their pain. Because I know deep down in my heart that each... Continue Reading →
Diamonds.
ย There's a diamond inside all of us. Waiting to be discovered. Related Post:ย Your strengths light my way.
Trust the music.
Stop expecting others to validate what you hear (see and feel). Theย music is not "out there". The music is in you. A beautiful melody that only you can hear. Listen. Be still. Take a long deep breath. Fear not who you are. Fear not what you hear. You are the symphony. Trust the music that... Continue Reading →
What would you do if you had no fear?
Run toward not away from the things that scare you the most. You'll be surprised at how small fears appear appear close up. https://youtu.be/1JQbJlcXzF0?si=Zq12IjJLpgb1SJ_T Related Post: Fear and Anxiety Solutions
The Art of Allowing.
Today vow to allow life to happen on its own terms, not your own. Sometimes your greatest power is in letting things go.
Fear and Anxiety Solutions
FEAR ->Forget Everything And Run. Each time we feel threatened (threat is the fundamental definition of stress) our first instinct is to "fight or flight".ย PUFF UP or Shrink.ย This perpetual "fight or flight" response loop eventually creates a host of secondary problems, above and beyond, the original stressor (or oppressor). It does not matter howย we... Continue Reading →
Nature soothes my soul
This photo was taken on one of my daily hikes up Blue Heron Hill. One of my favourite places to go at the end of a long wintery day. Each breath. Each step. Shifts me higher. To a place of perfect peace. At one with the great big beautiful sky. A divine connection. No words necessary.... Continue Reading →

