One thing that I have learned as a psychology professor and retired psychologist is that simple things on repeat have the greatest impact on our health and happiness.
This is why I want to share a sustainable model of emotional and mental health habits called CPR: Catch Pause Repair.
CPR
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CPR
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CATCH
What Triggers You?
Catch yourself before a stress response escalates by becoming more aware of what provokes you.
Take Inventory
Make a list of situations that you find yourself overreacting to over the course of the day.
It could be that you are always in the same argument with a sibling or a family member. It could be a heightened response to the slightest criticism from your boss. It could be about money.
Pick One Thing
From that list, narrow it down to one item that triggers you the most.
Something that you almost have an out-of-body reaction to.
For example, you come home after work after a long day of meetings and find your home in complete disarray. You are all set to make dinner and discover that the food you had planned to cook is no longer in the fridge.
Nothing is as you had planned it, and you find yourself angry and upset over and above the issue at hand.
Catch Yourself
This is a sign to catch yourself and move quickly into pause mode.
It’s not the situation alone that is distressing you, it’s everything that led up to that moment.
PAUSE
Pause and take a time-out when you feel the physical sensations of stress begin to escalate.
Take a Beat
Time-out
After catching yourself, you move into a pause mode by removing yourself from the situation.
It could be for 60 seconds or 60 minutes.
The key is that you become conscious and aware of the physical sensations behind your overreaction to the situation.
Conscious Awareness
The idea is that when you overreact to something, you are not reacting to the present moment, you are reacting to something from the past.
Whether it be earlier in the day, being stuck in traffic on the way home, or years ago when your parents argued repeatedly over dinner.
The Power of Now
The pause allows you to tune into your body, take a deep breath, and come back into the present moment.
REPAIR
Repair the root source of the heightened stress response which is often physiological in nature.
Nurture Yourself
The repair portion of the CPR model is an ongoing commitment to your mental and physical health and well-being, including tending to daily unmet needs.
This could include better sleep, less time on technology, increased physical exercise, and more time outdoors.
Catch — Pause — Repair ♥️
ORIGINAL SOURCE
CPR first appeared in The Drive Magazine. ™️
Thriving Under Pressure 
Great concept and advice – pause is so very, very important!
So very important ♥️
Let this be today’s reminder to P A U S E
Yes!!! Such a brilliant concept Andrea and one I can absolutely resonate with and learn from. In fact, just yesterday, I was triggered after a phone conversation with my 22yo son. I had to really pause to not allow the anger building up inside me to make me say something I would regret. I guess this also applies to many other scenarios in life too. Thank you for your never failing wisdom my friend. Wishing you joy, peace and happiness. Sending love. xxx
Thank you Miriam!
Love your example and integration of this concept and article into daily life.
Let this be today’s reminder to catch PAUSE repair.
You are worthy of the love and care you give.
Thanks Andrea. I had to read back to remember my example. And thank you for your last sentence. I seem to have deep seated issues of self worthiness. Sending love my friend 🙏🏻
I really loved the process behind the idea CPR – There is a different model I follow though. When a situation or someone has got me angry: I sit down if I am standing & lie down if I am sitting. Please try this. Will especially help with the “Pause” phase.
Thank you for taking the time to read, share, and reflect on the parts of the CPR model that work for you! Motivates me to come up with fresh new ideas for making psychology accessible to everybody. Have a wonderful weekend! Your comment made mine shine. Dr. D
Which part of the Emotional CPR model do you use most frequently?
Great Question!
The PAUSE part of Emotional CPR.
Including right here right now.
Thank you for the reminder to just be 🌷
CPR, brilliant advice! I especially like that Conscious Awareness part. Thank you, Dr. D!
Thank you Khaya! I initially developed CPR for a college initiative on sustainability. The focus on all their projects to date were on sustainability in the traditional sense — environment etc.
So when they asked me to participate, I dug deep into my training and and work as a psychologist (1998-2016) and thought, what do I need + what do clients need to sustain themselves in between therapeutic sessions: Emotional CPR.
A simple technique wakes us up and makes us conscious and aware of our surroundings and memories and triggers. One simple thing, changes everything.
Have a fabulous week Khaya! filled with poetry and creativity.. the ultimate CPR
Dr. D 👠 💥
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The part that jumps off the page for me is how much triggers are about the past – not the present. Thank you for this. A true wake up call indeed.
I talk about this here too:
Triggers can lead to many different paths.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts Erica.
Excellent suggestion! This post is pedagogy in action. (yep, I learned a new word.)
I used a similar method just yesterday – but with this outline, I have something to refer to in the future.
Lately, I’ve been noticing and evaluating my feelings. And yesterday, I traced my source of frustration past the person who triggered it to the actual problem.
The old me would have been mad at the person for the rest of the day. But as soon as I figured out that all they did was alert me to the source – I had nothing but gratitude towards them.
I then began to figure out how to solve the problem. Now, of course, solving the problem is more complicated than being angry – but it’s way more productive.
Thank you for creating this teachable moment. You are a great educator!
Reading your words = most fantastic way to begin my week! Thank you. Your deep reflections and applications about Emotional CPR give me greater insight into how I can support my students — in and out of the classroom. Including you! 🙏 📖 💗
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I love this quote: “Health is a daily practice, not a 30-day diet.”
This CPR is great advice, Dr. D!
Thank you for the feedback and encouragement Dr. G! Wishing you a week filled unexpected moments of goodness and ease. ☀️ Dr. D
Excellent Andrea , I pause often, 🙂 and I am often catching myself on things which trigger me, and to change my perception of them. I take myself off into ‘My repair mode’ which is taking myself out into nature or absorbing myself in my crafts or some meditation.. So I give myself space to BE…
Loved this post and many are in need of some calm healing balm right now..
Sending Love and well wishes.. And thank you, for sharing your expert CPR..
Much love 🙂
Thank you Sue. 🥰
Brilliant! The concept behind CPR–catching myself before my emotional triggers take me away in a whirlwind of crazy, pausing to breathe and recognize this is not the real issue, and repairing my response–is the basis of spiritual warfare. I love how you connect with the triggers and limbic system and emotional responses. So much to think about. Thank you for laying this out so precisely.
I love that you watched the videos too! The article, keynote, and CPR video go hand in hand.. Thank you Dayle. It helps me to see which parts ‘hit home’ for people. So that I can begin to create more ideas in psychology. My goal is make complex psychology theories simple and accessible to everybody. 📕 🌎 ❤️
You do just that.
Thank you 🙏 🥰
Your site looks dynamic; it stands out, hooks you, and reels you in! I love the anagram – ‘CPR.’ Well done. Not only psychological health food but a gratifying solution to a common (I think) issue with all of us. Don’t stop; we love hearing from you. Blessings, Peter.
Thank you Peter 🙏
My psychology students … and their professor … need daily reminders to tap back into power of the present moment.
Similar to the “Call – Response” pattern in Music. If we pay attention to the moment (the call), we are called back to the divine power (the response) that was placed within us the moment we were born.
CATCH
PAUSE
REPAIR
p.s. We write what we need to (re)learn… daily. 🌍☀😎
Wise words. Applicable for all.
Thank you VJ. This is always my hope when it comes to writing and videos. Simple and sustainable. We all need a double dose of emotional calm and repair these days. including me! Especially mid-semester… “Doctor, Heal Thyself” 😉
Is it mid-semester already? Where does the time go. Look forward to more on psychoneuroimmunology.