Let go of what is outside your control.
The next time you are gearing up for another fight with reality. Winter; Traffic; Parking; Deadlines. Try rolling with it. Surrendering to what is. Letting go. No matter the circumstances.
Hold on to what brings you joy.
In surrendering, you save precious energy for the joyful in your life. The meaningful in your life. The soulful in your life. Including this very moment. This is where happiness lives.
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To All Nursing Students, including my own:
If I were to assign any homework this weekend it would be to take a break.
10 minutes at a time.
5 times a day.
Because you have all worked exceptionally hard the past two weeks.
And a good rest is half the work.
Although things may not have gone your way.
Not exactly as you had planned.
You are still here.
This is something to celebrate.
Because showing up and being fully present is the essence of being a spectacular nurse.
And training to be a nurse is as much about the journey as the knowledge itself.
Take a breath.
Take a rest.
Give yourself credit.
For ALL that brought you here.
Focus on the ENTIRE process.
Not just one paper. Or one test.
Because the only way to finish a marathon is to take the water from the sidelines, eat the food along the way, and most importantly celebrate every step in the journey.
No matter how small.
No matter how challenging.
And if you need motivation to take a break, see this post:
I am sending you all good vibes.
All day long.
Every step of the way.
YOU GOT THIS !!
Dr. D. 😊
This post was inspired by the one question students ask year after year:
“How can I focus better when I study?”
Focus has as much to do with what happens before you study as what happens while you are studying.
1. Remove ALL distractions.
- Shut off your phone. Better yet — put it away. Just looking at it takes up mental space
- Research shows the mere presence of a smartphone on your desk impairs intellect and reduces brain power.
- And if you can’t trust yourself to hit the switch – lock your phone in the trunk of your car and give a trusted friend the key until you are done studying. No kidding!
- You’ll miss it for the first 20 minutes of your study session, then you’ll forget all about it.
- Bonus = you’ll get twice as much work done in half the time.
2. Be an ACTIVE studier.
- Do not passively read the textbook – you will fall asleep, I guarantee it!
- Instead, engage with the material.
- Get active. Make the chapter come alive!
- Have a classmate or friend quiz you.
- Do end of chapter tests.
- Read the textbook chapters out loud.
- Teach the subject to someone, anyone!
3. Clear out MENTAL CLUTTER.
- Empty your mind of your to do lists, worries, and what ifs before you study.
- Write them down and put them in a worry box to be tended to once exams are complete.
- Repetitive thoughts running through your head could be your biggest distraction.
4. Take frequent MOVEMENT breaks.
- Burn off pent-up, restless energy during study breaks.
- Get up. Walk around.
- Do not grab your phone.
- Move your body! Sing a song.
- Draw a picture. Clap out loud!
- Open a window. Smell fresh air.
- Go outside. Hug a tree!
5. REWARD yourself… eventually!
- Use the Premack Principle to reward yourself.
- Delayed gratification can be an excellent tool for sustaining attention and motivation.
- Make a list of all the things that are distracting you from studying and use them as rewards once all your studying is done.
- Go to Starbucks as a reward for studying, not as your location to study. (Too many distractions!)
- Bonus = you’ll get twice as much work done in half the time and you’ll have a special treat to look forward to when all your hard work is done.
- Your success is worth the wait!
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Every morning and every night I visit my favourite place on Earth.
The great outdoors. 🌿
Where do you go to quiet your mind and free your soul?
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Most people fight against what brings them despair instead of openly receiving what brings them joy.
Shift your focus. Change your life.
Consciously accept the good that already exists in your life.
Your health. Your freedom. Your vision. Your voice.
Accepting what is does not lower the bar.
Quite the opposite.
Acceptance opens your eyes to all the favour that exists in your life.
Your hope. Your creativity. Your community. This moment.
And it’s that good feeling that motivates you to strive for more of what’s right for you. Instead of fighting against what’s wrong for you.
Begin by accepting what is.
Moment by precious moment.
Your happiness depends on it.
Applying this Post in Everyday Life
- The 3 to 1 positivity to negativity ratio is one way of applying this post in your everyday life.
- Specifically, each time you criticize something about yourself (or any area of your life); you must acknowledge (accept) three positive aspects about the very thing you condemned. Hence, the 3 to 1 positivity ratio.
- For example, each time you put yourself down for not having enough friends, you need to accept three wonderful aspects of spending time alone. (Freedom; Spontaneity; Peace of mind.)
- This daily practice helps dampen the adverse impact negativity bias (a type of cognitive distortion) has on your life.
Sometimes it’s the smallest things that have the greatest impact on our happiness.
Something so close, so within reach, we often forget it was there in the first place. The good night’s sleep we’re yearning for; waiting patiently at the end of each day. The connection to nature we’re searching for; available 24/7 just beyond our front door. That extra deep breath; we frequently forget to take.
You possess a power so magnificent, so liberating, right under your nose.
Breathing is one of the few physiological functions that can be controlled both consciously and unconsciously.
When everything feels out of control, breathing is the one thing that will always be within our control. The times we’re under the most amount of stress is the exact time we need to expand our breathing – not restrict it.
We must become conscious of breath.
The next time you’re under any kind of pressure. Stuck in traffic. Rushing from class to class. Dealing with a difficult customer at work. Desperately trying to recall answers on a final exam. Wake up to the formidable power that exists within you. Right here. Right now. Right under your nose.
The most important thing in your life is your peace of mind.
Nurture it daily. Everything good flows from there. 🍂
Related Post: Taming Your Monkey Mind.
I have the pleasure of starting each day with my husband John.
Each morning begins at 6am with an hour of coffee talk weekends included.
No alarm clock necessary.
Having something as wonderful as hot coffee and good conversation to look forward to each day is its own wake up call.
This morning I asked John to share why he thought he was born.
Deep talk, I know.
But that’s just how life rolls when you’re married to a psychologist.
John’s answer: “To make one person’s life better that day.”
To which I replied: “Purpose achieved.” (He makes the best coffee!)
This conversation got me thinking about how important it is to live our purpose in short 24 hour segments. Too long a timeline and we feel lost and overwhelmed.
Name the purpose. Claim the day. Leave the details up to the universe.
Who. What. Where. When. How. Are spontaneous.
Simply be on the lookout for one opportunity to be on purpose for one day.
1 person. 1 purpose. 1 day.
Peace happens in moments.
The sun rising.
Peace happens in moments.
Savour the sunshine.
Taste every morsel.
Dance with abandon.
Stroll by the moonlight.
Peace happens in moments.
Breathe deeply into this moment.
Peace lives here.