Boundaries, Personality, and Saying No
Do you have a difficult time saying no?
While others in your life say no without a second thought.
Is this confusing and at times upsetting for you?
Are you hard on yourself because of this discrepancy between yourself and others?
You may be interested to discover that Saying No is not a one size fits all.
Join me in my psychology classroom as I share one factor that explains why some people have more difficulty saying no and holding boundaries than others — Personality!
Feelers vs. Thinkers
❤️ Feelers take things more personally than thinkers.
Often causing feelers to say YES on the outside when on the inside their intuition is telling them to SAY NO.
Result = Mixed Messages + Unnecessary Stress
By contrast, individuals who are left brain dominant (thinkers on the Myers Briggs scale) are more straightforward and logical in their response to requests from friends and coworkers.
💡 Saying no comes naturally to thinkers.
Thinkers know what they want and use analytics + logic not the emotions of the person in front of them as their guiding force.
Learning from each other
On the plus side:
Feelers and thinkers make incredible teammates.
At work and in life.
Balance is everything. 🧠 + ❤️
Related Posts and Psychology Resources
1. Right Brain versus Left Brain: https://drandreadinardo.com/2017/09/18/are-you-left-brain-or-right-brain-dominant/
2. Are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? https://drandreadinardo.com/2017/05/17/are-you-a-highly-sensitive-person/
3. Myers Briggs Personality Profile https://www.verywellmind.com/the-myers-briggs-type-indicator-2795583
4. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel https://m.youtube.com/c/DrAndreaDinardo
Let me know in comments below how your personality impacts different areas of your life, including saying No. Please share techniques you’ve developed for setting boundaries too! I’d love to know! Dr. D 📚
One Final Note
In Addition to Personality and Individual Differences Situation Also Impacts Our Ability to Say NO and Stand Firm on Tough Decisions.