Lean into loneliness | The Drive Magazine.

Good news to share!

This month I published my first psychology advice column for a Canadian magazine. The same magazine that profiled my work in positive psychology.

My intention for the psychology article is to inspire and comfort individuals experiencing loneliness during the holidays.

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 Writing dreams & goals.

I have been writing psychology textbooks for McGraw-Hill Ryerson since 2009 and blogging since 2015.

But truth be told, I have always longed for something more. To write a psychology advice column for a magazine and eventually a book about psychology in everyday life.

Psychology for the people.

My intention is to make psychology accessible, engaging, and easy to apply. Integrate all of the stories, life lessons, and adversities I have witnessed over the years as a former school psychologist and now professor.

Empower the readers to find the strength inside.

Which is why I am thrilled to share an excerpt from the December PSYCH DRIVE column for The DRIVE Magazine.

 Lean into Loneliness —  Introduction

When we feel a painful emotion, our first instinct is to pull away. To numb the pain. To hide from the intensity.

This was the case for Sarah and Jack, two unique individuals with vastly different circumstances. But they each experienced the same emotion: loneliness.

An emotion that is heightened during the holidays.

Knowledge is power

1. Understand the emotion

We need to first understand an emotion before we jump to the conclusion that it’s either good or bad, because in reality, emotions are almost entirely physiological in nature. There’s not a negative or positive to them. It’s in our mind that we make it one or the other. This concept is supported by Schachter-Singer’s theory of emotion..

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Lean into loneliness by Dr. Andrea Dinardo

Stay tuned for the next PSYCH DRIVE in 2019!

51 thoughts on “Lean into loneliness | The Drive Magazine.

    1. Thanks so much for the feedback Dayle! And for taking the time to read. I was so nervous about taking the leap from blogging to magazine writing. But with 55,000 readers in the mail distribution — it was worth all my trepidation!

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  1. Congratulations. Excellent article. Again, I find that I’ve developed a mechanism or process to cope, learn, and overcome, and then read a post or article where you identify a more structured and insightful process of what I’ve been doing, and give additional tips. Even knowing these things, though, requires a certain mindfulness to catch yourself as you slip into these vortexes of feelings.

    “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

    That’s a powerful statement. Writing fiction, it’s tremendously useful as character development, story arcs, and plotting is pursued, but that insight is even more helpful in relationships and dealing with life.

    Thanks once again for more memorable and useful insights. Cheers.

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  2. Loved this article! I’m a natural sprinter–running away from anything uncomfortable. I am trying to lean into unpleasant emotions so I can learn the lessons and move one instead of repeating the same mistakes. Appreciate your concise take on this.

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  3. Congratulations Andrea! 😊Read your complete article and it’s absolutely amazing.
    Though I didn’t get chance to study psychology in school or college, psychology as field of study interests me a lot. So I keep reading some books and blog related to it. I’m so glad that I discovered your blog today. It beautifully explains everything and gives great insights into this field. I wish I had discovered it earlier. Thanks for sharing your valuable insights😊

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    1. So happy to meet you in the blogosphere! Thank you for taking the time to read the complete loneliness article. And aprovide feedback. In doing so, you give me the motivation to keep on writing! I hope I can do the same for you. I love the title and theme of your blog. I look forward to reading more. Have a wonderful day! Andrea 💃✨

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  4. Interesting post. I find December a particularly lonely time following the death of my mother three years ago. I love the idea of declaring December a month of Renewal and Reinvention.
    I try to journal daily but this practice has been quite hit & miss for some time. Maybe more time spent blogging accounts for this.
    Since my return from The Gambia after a four month stay my journaling has been ‘all over the place’ (Abit like me).
    Autumn seemed to mean slot to me and I became energised from walking in nature in our local park & taking photos.
    In my journal on 11th September I added ‘eventually September’ to the month’s recordings. October titled ‘Catching up & looking forward’ & November ‘recall & remember.’

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      1. Thank you Andrea for such a beautiful compliment. Posts from bloggers like your wise self give me the motivation to carry on blogging when the going gets tough.
        Happy new year to you & yours 🙂💁🏻

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  5. KJ Smith

    “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” So true! So true!! So difficult, too! Like conquering any bad habit, it takes great effort and commitment to view our struggles in a different light. But I believe you are correct – we have to “make space for the lessons beneath the suffering.” Wonderful article! And congratulations!

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    1. Amen KJ! Difficult but soooo worth it!

      I always love hearing from you KJ. Thank you for reading the complete article and for sharing your insights.

      Together we cheer each other on to “make the space for the lessons beneath the suffering.” (I love that you shared my quote from the original article!)

      Happy (almost) New Year! xo

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      1. KJ Smith

        Yes, together!! We truly must be there for each other. And by the way, there were so many good points in this article – Quote-worthy all the way through! 🙂 Happy New Year to you, too!

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  6. I have found that instead of figuring out what is wrong, how to process is a better question because regardless of the issue, we still have to get through certain things and being more equipped mentally has been a benefit to effecitvely working more.

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