This post is for anyone experiencing FOMO. Particularly on a long weekend holiday!
Holidays heighten social anxiety of every kind.
Consider these questions as you explore what’s going on below the surface.
1. Do you remember the first time you experienced FOMO?
2. How did you cope with the anxiety of missing out?
3. What if anything would you be willing to give up in your life in exchange for the fantasy of someone else’s life or experience?
4. What about your life do you cherish above all else?
Please share in the comments below, including your own strategies for handling FOMO. I’d love to know!
Savour this moment.
Although it was a very long time ago for me, I can recall my teen years being caught up in this anxiety syndrome.
The interesting aspect is, it went on for many years, right up until my early forties. At this point, I had a spiritual experience which lead me to discover my true identity and voila! I was set free from this state.
The moment I discovered ‘who I was’ and the many special attributes in my own life, I was no longer wanting anyone else’s experience.
I had long forgotten about this experience until reading your article this morning.
As you rightly say, facing and dealing with the issue is how my freedom came.
Well done Doctor Dinardo!
Thank you Peter! This ^ is exactly why I share psychology everywhere! On video. In books. In the classroom. On the streets. On this blog. I want to remind people how universal and temporary our challenges truly are.
Though we may not personally be experiencing FOMO ANXIETY today. I guarantee (AS YOU SHARE ABOVE) there was a day that WE ALL DID.
And in reflecting back and beautifully sharing your insights Peter, you help others be more compassionate and empathetic with their neighbours, their children, the barista at Starbucks, and the young person inside — when they’re in a state of missing out anxiety. This ^ is what empathy is.
I am so very grateful for your contribution to this post.
And so are my psychology students!
We are exactly where we need to be and all is perfect.
Nice video too! 👌👌👌
And post very interesting, Andrea
I love that you watched the video right until the end! A message of peace and equanimity for us all. “We are exactly where we need to be.” Trust the journey. 🍃
Yes Andrea for sure 👍 👍👍, so welcome 😊 😊😊 😊
Wow. This is what started in grammar school. The “mean girls” who took turns excluding those of us not in their “group.”
I remember this vividly and I think it can remain a trigger for a long time. This can also happen in the family unit when parents triangulate one sibling against another. Exclusion leading to isolation.
When there is a sense of not being included – even when it is not personal – it can reek havoc with anxiety issues. It is important to take a moment and try to step back from a situation when these feelings crop up again. To go from the victim mentality to being in charge. Not always easy when/if you are “hardwired” from such an early age.
Childhood sets the stage for so much of this type of anxiety – especially the FOMO. You were lucky at the age of 7 to have the presence of mind to handle it the way you did!!
Feeling left out brings up so many emotions. Heightened for young people these days with phones and social media.
— Which is why I am so grateful that you shared the more tangible side of fomo anxiety. Real and alive at all ages and settings. Families too!
— For example, someone very close to me was excluded from sibling events, almost since the day they were born making them question their own self-worth and value.
Thank you again for reading, responding, and watching the video. My posts are so much better off when you visit! 🦋💙
I appreciate your feedback as well. Your posts and videos are so on point and shed new light on issues I am often quite familiar with. New perspectives are always welcome!
Thank you Andrea. I know you will never tire of your endeavors to reach those who need words of encouragement – your passion is tangible. May you have everlasting energy, allowing it to flow into the hearts of many. You are a blessing!
Ahhh thank you Peter!
You words made my night.
I think for me, it is remembering when my family used to gather all together for the holidays. With the passage of time and certain events, that is not possible as much.
You bring light to the past — an important aspect of FOMO. Fear of Missing Out: A term often reserved for “youth”.
As you write above: It’s as much about looking back – as it is looking sideways. The younger version of our lives.
I am 💯 percent on board with you. Holidays can make an empty place at the dinner table feel more like a grand canyon cavern than a brief day in time.
Thank you for sharing Syl. You always leave me reflecting more deeply. 🤔🙏💙
Thank you for your insightful pick me ups. Always learning through your posts.
I’ve found FOMO to be one of those little sticklers that poke you when you least expect it. I think it has everything to do with the lie from the enemy of our souls–that we are missing out on something worthwhile because of something we’re not.
I really didn’t have any issues with this until I was well into my thirties–I didn’t know what I was missing. But the more I discovered my own identity in the Lord, the harder the lies became to make me question if I wasn’t enough–or if I was too much.
So I now tell myself the truth about my identity when these feelings poke their ugly heads into my world. I really wonder if we ever truly get over that sense of being left out of something.
I love your questions–especially the one on what I cherish in life more than anything else. That leads to who I really am.
Thanks for the truly insightful questions and your handling of a situation that a lot of folks avoid. One of the many things I admire about you–you don’t hold back.
Well done, my friend.
“I’ve found FOMO to be one of those little sticklers that poke you when you least expect it.”
— So true! 💡
I am grateful Dayle for how you jump deep into the questions & dialogue of my posts. The conversation and the learning from each others’ experience are my two favourite parts of blogging,
— As you write: the more we know who we truly are, the less we feel left out.
Because we unconditionally trust that we’re exactly where we’re meant to be.🌟💫
Embarrassingly I had no clue what FOMO was until i read the link and your post. I like company of others and enjoy get togethers, but at heart I am an introvert and love my space. , so I dont FOMO applies to me personally. But, i can see how it impacts others and how they compare themselves to images on social media or just others. Comparison is the worst thing we can do in any shape or form. There seems to a great deal of new illnesses born from social media, it is quite bad.
This is an interesting post that opened my eyes to fomo.
Your reflections always make me smile. I can see the wheels turning as you ponder and assimilate new concepts into your heart 💖 + mind 🧠
Lol, the randomness of my scattered thoughts, still figuring it out as i write.. lol you are so polite! 🤗😆
Great comments on this.
We probably all have experienced FOMO starting with the first day of school. And we repeat these feelings into adulthood.
I can remember many years ago starting a difficult job and feeling so rejected that I reduced myself to feeling like I did in kindergarten.
Thank you Dr. Dinardo for shining a light on this.
Your video was very good too.
Brilliant examples Michele.
Thank you for watching, reading, and participating!
As you write above ^ it’s the comments that make the post come alive!
Your experience with FOMO highlights a critical aspect of my work
= showing people how universal our experiences truly are.
The good. The bad. The sad. And the wonderful.
We are all connected by developmental psychology + rites of passage.
And it’s in the sharing of our experiences that we REMOVE THE VEIL of separation between us .
For we are ALL HUMANS sharing a HUMAN EXPERIENCE.
We just need reminders every once in a while. xo
I love this ! Oh I have felt this way .. you are so hitting on things I am relating to . Hmm have to think of that question .. thank you once again wonderful post.
Most excellent! You are so welcome. Love knowing my FOMO anxiety video and blog post were helpful. Have a great night!
Thank you ! Yes it was 🙂
What a great video Andrea and such an important message for our times. I remember as a little girl at school I was always the last picked for sports teams and I got left out of lots of things. It wasn’t a nice feeling. Even as an adult I was plagued with feelings of not being enough, comparison and dare I say even envy. It’s only been in the last few years that my mindset has completely shifted. And today I see all the blessings. And I realise we’re all enough. 🙏
Yesssssss to all of this! I admire your openness & honestly about the topic of FOMO Miriam. I can relate on every level. Including the recent mindset shift to emotional freedom. Taking a step back and having perspective helps tremendously.
Thanks also for watching the accompanying videos. I have found it to be a more natural way for me to express i my ideas. My goal is always one take — zero edits.
Unlike magazine and blog writing, which at times can be an infinite loop of edits and second guessing myself.
Similar to your beautiful photography, I lose myself in the spirit of videography. ☀️💃🎥
Your videos are amazing Andrea, very natural and immensely relatable. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and beautiful spirit. xx