What’s your love language?

How do you express your love?

What do you value most in a partner?

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Love Lessons in the Classroom

In this week’s social psychology class, we talked about:

1) What we value in relationships.

2) Our 5 love languages.

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3) The thought processes behind choosing a partner.

Video #1: Before Class Preparations

In video #1  I discuss the psychological theories and related life experiences that lay the foundation for this week’s social psychology class.


Love Lessons in Real Life

In video #2 below, I reflect on the lessons learned in this week’s psychology class and share insights on how to apply the love lessons in real life.

1) Including concrete ways of matching love values to your potential partner’s “tells”. Specifically, how to read your date’s nonverbal cues and behaviour.

2) And how to look for *concrete evidence* of love values, including honesty and thoughtfulness, in your date’s actions and words.

Video #2 : After Class Reflections

YOUR TURN

Let’s Talk about Love!

1. What is the one value you cherish most in a partner?

Examples:

trustworthiness – kindness – compassion – intelligence – humour – adventurousness – physical attractiveness – undivided attention

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2. What is your preferred love language?

Examples:

Love Notes – Surprise Gifts – Helping – Quality Time – Cuddling

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Please share in the comments!

I’d love to hear what you value in love
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34 thoughts on “What’s your love language?

  1. “The five languages of love”. I have a best friend, Becky, who expresses her love in only one language — acts of service. Cleans your cottage, bakes you a cobbler, etc.

    It can be hard for folks to understand Becky. I mean understand how much she cares about them. I’ve heard her called a harsh word or two. But she’s got a warmer heart than most of us, I think.

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    1. Thank you for watching, reading, and sharing. Your kind heart comes through in all that you do.
      So it’s no wonder that you seek an equally compassionate heart.

      May you find kindness in every kind of love, until the one day someone worthy of you, arrives.
      I wish this and more for you Brigid.

      We’ve never met. Yet I feel like I’ve always known you. Must be my Irish ☘️ heritage shining through.

      Andrea 💚

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  2. I notice one thing not directly mentioned in your post is a definition of “love”. I think that was wise, since most everyone defines love according to their own experience of things, and what you do say applies to just about every definition I can think of.

    I’ll mention what I think of as love, although I’d be the last person on earth to say my definition works for everyone. To me, love is more a way of seeing than it is a way of feeling towards someone or even thinking of someone. I call it a “lens”. A lens that looms another person large and before us – so close we are able to commune with them.

    And that to me would be the the one value I’d most look for in a partner — that she be someone I can commune with. After that, kindness.

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          1. Quite possibly, Andrea, you just made my whole coming week for me. To say I take your thought and writing processes to a whole new level is to affirm and validate my public mission as a blogger. Personally, I blog mostly to clarify my thoughts and feelings. But in terms of any good I hope it will do for others, you have just now affirmed and validated my mission.

            Gods! Do I now owe you one or what? I can’t imagine anything less than taking you and anyone you want to come along with us to a fine restaurant. It frustrates me that’s impractical because of the distances.

            Would you give me the pleasure of shipping you Tom Robbins’ “Even Cowgirls Get the Blues”? Have I told you about it before? I think I might have. When I first read it at 22, I rolled off the couch laughing too hard. Forty years later, no other book has done that to me.

            The core theme is totally timeless and awesome. The need to be true to ourselves and what happens when we aren’t.

            I would be ecstatic if you would grant me permission to ship off a copy to you ASAP. Just use the contact form on my blog to give me a shipping address, please. What do you say, Andrea? Are you going to make me a happy man?

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      1. It was my mum’s r.i.p. favourite also. Mum had blue eyes and could wear all shades of blue. I have greenish eyes with a brown circle around my Iris which an optician told me we’re irish eyes and I suit warm colours but can wear turquoise.
        I was delighted to hear the optician’s comment as both my parents were Irish.

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  3. I always love reading your post Dr. Andrea. They are so insightful and there’s so much to learn from😊

    I really loved the surprise element in second video, where in the end you say that the love quality we choose is also who we are and that’s more likely our gift ❤
    That’s something I’m gonna reflect upon😁

    Thank you for sharing this amazing post ❤

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    1. Knowing each other’s love languages is such an important part of relationships. Which is why I admire how ‘in touch’ 😉 you are with both what you value in love (trustworthiness) and how each of you express love differently. Wishing you a week filled with love and understanding! Warm Wishes, Andrea

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